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Saturday, August 22, 2009

Almost five weeks after surgery, and...

I feel fantastic!! Everything went well, and I'm doing GREAT! (I was even able to keep one ovary, so I'm thrilled that I have my own hormones and feel "even," if you can understand that.)

I know that I haven't blogged in so very long. The only thing I can say is that I have been spending a lot of time revisiting my expectations of recovery and what I had predetermined to take place in my heart and mind. None of which have happened. Seriously.

What did happen? I had a successful surgery that, for the most part, was uneventful. I spent one night in the hospital, as I was fortunate enough to have the DaVinci robotic surgery. It was minimally invasive, even for a radical hysterectomy (if leaving one ovary is still considered radical). Once the catheter was removed and I could prove that I could "pee-pee" a certain amount, as well as walk the hallways, I was free to go home. Then, my recovery process began.

I walked as much as I could, a little more everyday. I rested when I needed it, and I didn't over-exert myself. (Unless you count my going to work during week two for two days, and finding that it was way too early!) I know, I know. I felt as if I could handle it. Boy, was I wrong. Should have waited at least one more week.

But, overall, my recovery was quite uneventful, restful, and at times, even boring. I was even too bored to eat chocolate. I didn't want to read, write, or watch TV. I just wanted to get back to normal. Or, what I had expected "normal" to be. I wasn't quite sure what that was going to look like.

You see, I had been suffering with female issues since I was seventeen. All my life, it seemed, I have endured pain and discomfort. I was even infertile for eleven years before conceiving our miracle baby girl (who just turned eleven in July). I have been poked, prodded and assaulted with sharp instruments more times than I can count. So, "normal" was an enigma to me.

As I waited for normality, I realized that everything I had expected to happen, emotionally speaking, had not. I had prepared myself to "change." I mean, shouldn't I have? I just had major surgery to remove my "female parts" and I wasn't feeling like a basket case. Why?

I know that this kind of thing is different for every woman who endures it. And, I certainly would never belittle someones personal experience. I know that for many women, just the word hysterectomy can stir up visions of a daunting and frightening life-event. It was that way for me as well. I was scared. I was terrified, actually. But, I have to tell you, I was not prepared for how great I was going to be, after the event.

I honestly expected to experience some deeply profound emotional "something" following my surgery. I've even spent that last few weeks pondering my state of mind and emotions, the lack of which, have left me perplexed. That would explain my lack of posting. I didn't know what to say. Or, I was afraid to say how well everything was going, for fear that things might crumble into an emotional heap of female brokenness. But, that never happened either.

To make a very long story short, I'm well. More than well. I'm happy, healthy, and nearly 100%. I feel better than I have in years, and I've found that I have, intuitively, not looked back, other than to try to understand why I'm not emotionally missing my pieces and parts.

Maybe because I was broken and now I'm fixed. Maybe because the only good they've done for me was give me my little miracle. Maybe because I know that I'm so much better off now. Even though I knew I would be, I was concerned that I would have regrets. Or, that I would have moments of grieving my femininity. After all, don't the parts make the woman? Nonsense! My soul makes me who I am.

I actually feel more beautiful, more energetic, and more feminine than ever. I feel clean and whole (even with parts missing). I feel like me... just much improved. CJ 2.0!

So, now I continue to heal. My surgery a distant memory. I'm not CJ, a woman who had a hysterectomy. I'm just CJ... period. My life is the sum of all of its parts, (no pun intended) having equal play and impartation into my life.

I have a new haircut and new attitude. I no longer expect to be sad at the loss of those things that actually hindered me during times in my life. I look forward with expectancy and joy of a pain-free and energetic life. The best is yet to come!


Shoe Mood:

Yes... I did it all in stilettos! (If only in my mind.)

This was my reality, the first week and a half!
(Thanks, Mirka, for the froggy socks! xoxo)


lkmadigan said...

I'm so glad you're feeling good. This was a lovely post. It's wonderful when a "loss" turns out to be more like a gift.



CJ Raymer said...

Thanks, Lisa! It feels good to be cancer free! And, yes... my loss was a gift. xoxo

Nora MacFarlane said...

It's good to know you're doing so well!

Anonymous said...

Oh, CJ, I'm so glad that you're well!! Your post was beautiful and powerful. I love your writing style and I can relate to soooooo much of what you've been through...I, too, have been poked and prodded countless times and have had female issues since I was a girl. I'm infertile now, but I was blessed with a boy 8 (almost 9) years ago. Thank you for letting us into your life...even if only to know that there's someone who I can relate to in this world...a kindred spirit, so to speak. :-)

Emily Cross said...

Aw this is great! I'm so happy to hear that you're doing well!!

Stephanie J. Blake said...

So glad you are 100%!

Tabitha said...

That's wonderful!!! So glad to hear it. Going through what you went through is no easy feat, and to come out of it feeling so good is just amazing! Good for you!

CJ Raymer said...

Nora - Yes, thank you. I feel really good!

Susan - Hey, Sweetie! Yes, I feel a kindred connection, as well. Thank you for your encouragement.

Emily - Thank you! XO

Stephanie - I'm almost there! Thanks for everything!

Tabitha - I'm happy too. I wasn't expecting to feel so good. ;-)

Sharon said...

I want to see your new haircut! :) Love you and miss you more than the great late summer we've been having!

Bish Denham said...

I'm SO happy for you. Our innards don't make us who/what we are. Else would we stop being human if we have a bad appendix taken out,a leg amputated or a boob removed?

The cells of our bodies die and are replaced daily. Technically we have a "new" body and are born again every 7 years.

Dance on the ceiling!

nacherluver said...

How wonderful to pop on your page and read such fabulous news! I'm so happy for you!

Nishant said...

It's wonderful when a "loss" turns out to be more like a gift.
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